Marriage is the coming together of two adults to live together as one, as husband and wife. These two people are from different backgrounds. Oftentimes from a different tribe, culture, nation but for the sake of marriage, they come together to make and build a family together. Therefore, there are things outside love that would help the family to stand firm and be enjoyable, for marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.
Let’s look at this scripture: Colossians 3:18-19. “Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them”.
Paul, was telling both parties how they should lead their lives in marriage. Also, we could see what Peter wrote concerning the two people involved in a marriage. 1 Peter 3: 1-7. The two people involved have roles to play, to make their marriage work. To take this further, here are some steps to achieving a beautiful marriage after the wedding ceremony.
- Learn to spend time together: As newly married couples from different family back grounds, it is required of the couples to spend quality time together. This will help both parties to begin to know and understand each other’s strength and weaknesses.
- Learn to shut your eyes: Married couples should understand that there are certain things both of them did not know about each other while dating and courting, which they will start to note about themselves because they are now spending more time together. Therefore, they will require to shut their eyes to most of their weaknesses.
- Learn to Accommodate: In marriage because the two parties involved grew up from different family backgrounds, there abounds to be differences in viewpoints, likes and dislikes, opinions and inclinations; hence, they must learn to accommodate, make excuses, adjustments and adapt. Although they have their different ideas, they have to accommodate the thoughts of their partner. It just means to discover/take into consideration what bothers the other. It also means to deny oneself considering another.
- Learn to be appreciative and sensitive: Married couples should learn to be sensitive when their partners have done well and appreciate their strengths, virtues and beauty.
- Learn to make your appreciation known: 1 Peter 3:7. “Ye husbands, in like manner, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of life; to the end that your prayers be not hindered”. It is a sense of honor when you make your appreciation known to your spouse, so they will know they are doing well and can improve the more. Lack of making one’s appreciation known makes the other believe that the other party is unlovable and cannot be pleased.
In our subsequent articles, we would write more notes on this.
God bless you.