God knows the importance of love and that was why He first showed mankind love by sending His only begotten son Jesus Christ to die for the whole world (John 3:16).
More so, everybody wants to be loved and needs to be shown affection. But we can only find comfort and care in God’s love. ‘Giving’ really does not show care, tenderness or joy. It does not really show love, because many people give out gifts but they may don’t love the recipients, and they give out of grumbling and murmuring. Many people misunderstand love. Some people love people that give them something. Some lust after people and think it is love. Once they get what they want, they stop showing the assumed person love. Some men, just sing the praises of some women and once they succeed in having an intercourse with the women; they stop the assumed love which may turn into hatred. Some people start loving their cousins because they want to have intercourse with them. This is exactly what happened in the bible where Ammon was lusting after Tamar and wanted her desperately. The moment he achieved his aim, he hated her (2 Samuel 13:15).
Some people also love people they feel that love them. They call it mutual feeling. They only love people that love them. That kind of love is not the type of love shown in the bible. Some people love only the people they admire, especially celebrities/ stage performers.
However, everyone needs affection, love and to be cared for.
Some benefits of true love:
- it elongates life.
- It increases the health and life span of people. This comes as a result of the secreted happiness hormones, like dopamine, serotonin, Oxytocin, etc.
- It builds confidence.
When you have real love, you can’t castigate, backbite, envy, be jealous or even slander the people you love. There are other kinds of people who do not love people that loves them. This is why love is a scarce commodity.
For instance, a child whose parents love, builds confidence and does exceptionally well in his/her academics and life. This is why, it is so important for parents to handle their children well. This is because words have effects on people, how much more negative words, which can alter a man’s destiny. Your words can be forgiven but may not be forgotten. This is why, one must be very careful with words. Everyone wants love and is looking for one satisfaction or the other.
Be comforted in God’s love and do away with depression, sadness, bitterness, emotional trauma, find solace in God.